Darren, you are really a good boy..

updated by mommy...

There were 2 incidents that I would like to record it down for memory sake to remember how "good" is my son..

Though many praised Darren for being a very good, well-mannered, matured, caring, understanding, compassionate and smart boy, there were times I would still scold or nag him for being "not good" enough...I know I shouldn't and I really think he is a boy that I am very proud of..he is really my precious and darling boy. Just take today as an example:

I wanted to take a nap in the room while Isabel was napping. I called him in the room and CASUALLY asked him to do his "homework", not school work but workbooks that I bought for him. I never really thought he would do it because usually he will only do those work "together" with me or with me sitting next to him. I was thinking he would take this opportunity to play the computer or ipad instead.

Very fast I dozed off and he woke me up and asked me how to do this particular page of chinese homework. I was grumpy because I just dozed off and told him in an irriated voice that later only I would teach him. I basically ignored him.

He again woke me up and I felt more frustrated. I can'r remember what he asked me but I shoo him off by raising my voice, "Can't you see mommy is sleeping and mommy is very tired. Can you just let me sleep a little while?" He then walked off..

For the third time he woke me up, I was showing him my even more frustrated and angry look and asked him what he wants? He was actually asking my permission to play the computer. I gave the green light and continue sleeping.

Later when I woke up, he was sitting on the bed next to me playing iPad. I walked past my study table and saw his 4 worksbooks on the table. I noticed he has completed 1 full page of chinese word writing. I then later asked him what else has he completed. After I sent him to Bau Bei, I came back and checked his workbooks and was surprised to find that he actually tried to complete a few pages of each workbooks. Those that he didn't really know how to do, he actually figure it out himself and get it done too.

I was so amazed by his initiative. I felt so touched and felt so bad for myself. I should not have talked to him so rude and frustrated as he was just trying to do his work. Also, though he has all the right to use my laptop, he never misuse his privilage and ALWAYS asked my permission before he used my laptop. I am really proud of him. Even though I was sleeping, he actually woke me up and asked me. He can just use it without asking me and I don't think I will scold him for that.

Darren, you are really a good boy!!

There was another incident that happened few weeks back that I would like to record it down.

I took out Darren's push car one day for Isabel to try. Isabel actually already has a "giraffe" push car bought by hubby not long ago. However, Isabel wanted Darren's push car instead of her "giraffe".

Darren also wanted to play with his push car. But we scolded him and told him that he is too big for the push car. It is not meant for mei mei and not him. Every time he tried to play with it, Isabel will sure come and fight for it and he always ended getting scolding from us. Poor boy, I know...

After a few days, one afteroon while I was on the phone, Darren wanted to play with the push car again. Before I wanted to give him the lecture not to play with it (because Isabel will sure fight for it), he automatically sat on the "undersized giraffe" instead of his push car and rode on it. Of course Isabel followed suit and dashed towards the push car. So happened the push car was behind the laundry basket. Darren then very cool, rode his undersized giraffe over and helped Isabel took out the push car and let her sit on it.

Then you saw a scene that the big kor kor was riding on a small giraffe push car while the small mei mei was sitting on a bigger push car.

Honestly, I felt that my tears suddenly filling up my eyes at that moment. What a boy do I have and what a brother he is to his little sister? He is just 5 years old and he was just so understanding and caring towards his sister. My heart ache after seeing that scene and felt that he should not give in to Isabel.I should not let Isabel fight with him. Of course later I did praise him for being such a good kor kor and he was elated.

You know..every time when they fight for things, automatically we will ask Darren to give it to Isabel since he is a kor kor and Isabel is still small. But now, I don't give in to Isabel so much. I think Darren deserves his things too.

Darren, you are really a good brother. Mommy is so proud of you...